How to Navigate the Shock of a Midlife Adoption Discovery

This was the feedback from my client, who was in a really tough place when we started working together.

“Shan, the sessions with you were so powerful and stay with me today. Your warmth, compassion and assistance through a tough time are much appreciated. I’d recommend you to anyone who is looking for a warm and compassionate therapist, in a case where talking alone won’t be enough to shift a particular mental state."

In her 40’s, she had recently discovered that she’d been adopted, and, that she had a sibling. Her feelings of abandonment, betrayal and confusion were all-consuming. Her relationship with her new-found sibling was complicated.

Managing all of that, caring for her own children, maintaining her marriage, and also caring for her aging parents, whilst holding down a job was taking all of her headspace and time.

When she signed up with me, she went all-in. She proactively sought solutions to every challenge, did everything I asked her to do, and more.

Together we created a program that was tailored specifically to what she needed – we included journalling, rituals, exercises, as well as all the usual things that go into my Fast Freedom program.

That’s how I work with my clients. There’s a framework, and then, as things come up, we create what’s most helpful for my client to get the results she wants.

It’s powerful. And it’s effective.